Walking Into My Empty Home
Divorce is not for the “faint hearted”, it can be painful, sad and very lonely. The truth is that it doesn’t have to be this way. While many people find the prospect of walking to an empty home after a divorce to be challenging, it can actually be quite liberating.
Once you start becoming familiar with the empty home and not having to fuss over dinner for both of you, it can start to become quite exciting. Now I know you may be wondering how coming home to nobody can be excited. I promise you that it really can become the start of a whole new life for you.
Here are some top tips to help you with your empty home after a divorce and they really do work.
1. Give it time
The first tip is to give it time before you start expecting miracles, take some time to allow yourself to adapt to the change. Any change is hard, but especially your spouse not being around can be a big adjustment. Therefore it’s a good idea to just ease gently into the changes.
2. Invite friends over
Start inviting your friends over to your home and it can really make a huge difference, in fact it can almost start to become fun. Consider allowing guests to sleep over. Invite a sibling over for a sleepover or host a dinner party. This can help to make life fun and exciting again. Plus your home can be filled with happiness and laughter.
3. Find a hobby
Although this may seem like a complete no brainer, it really is worth your while to find a hobby after a divorce. Throw yourself into something that you love and it will make a major difference in your life. It’s never too late to start a new hobby and now may be the right time to start something you have always wanted to try.
4. Decorate your home
The last thing that you want after a divorce is your home to remain the same. The best thing that you can do for your emotional wellbeing is to change things around. Move the furniture, decorate your home and make it into your own space. Remember how much fun it was as a teenager to decorate your room? Now is the time to completely redecorate your home and make the space your own.
5. Enjoy being alone
There really are ways that you can learn to love being alone. For example, make yourself your favorite dinner, watch a good movie and have a long warm bubble bath. Sit in the garden and read a book and listen to the sounds of the birds. Being alone can be very relaxing and fun. In fact, it can be much better than the stress of fighting with a spouse for example. Sit back, relax and enjoy the peace and tranquility.
6. Get a pet
One of the best ways to recover after a divorce is to get a pet. Even if you already have pets, you could use this opportunity to get a new pet. One that is yours and yours alone. A new beautiful Labrador puppy could be just the type of companionship that you need. This could be the start of a wonderful new friendship that can bring so much joy and happiness into your life.
7. Join a gym
Nothing bad can from joining a gym and that is a promise. The worst that can happen is that you will have a place to go to whenever you feel like going out as gyms are open all hours of the day and night. You will have a place to go to after work, before coming home. In fact, that is not the worst thing that can happen. The very worst thing that could possibly happen from joining a gym is that you may actually enjoy it and start getting into shape. A hot new body never did anybody any harm.
Plus it’s a great way to meet new people who are all trying to better themselves. A gym is a very positive place as everybody is looking to improve. You could even start some classes and start meeting new people. The possibilities are endless.
8. Focus on yourself
Now is the time to start focusing on you. You can be as selfish as you need to be and it can be fun. Take the time to become healthy, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Take a vacation with friends to a place that you have always wanted to go to. Spend some money on yourself that you were saving for a rainy day. Better yet, create a bucket list of all things that you have wanted to do and start ticking them off one by one. The possibilities are endless when you start enjoying your life again and focusing on you.
An empty home and a recent divorce is never an easy situation, however if you can start to see the positives and possibilities for the future, it can start to become a very enriching and rewarding experience. Give yourself some time and be proactive in your approach.
You may be pleasantly surprised at how much you start to enjoy life again. In a few years’ time when you look back you will be totally amazed at how far you have come. There is no better time than the present to embrace the goodness in the world and to appreciate the possibilities of the future. The secret that you still need to discover is that: “life begins to happen after a divorce”.
“Sometimes things fall apart so that better things can fall together”-Marilyn Monroe